Patterns of Imbalance

The tendency to hide inner mental suffering behind a cheerful face; denial and avoidance of anything painful; conflict avoidance

Positive Qualities

Emotional honesty (including with one’s self); genuine inner peace

Fear and anxiety with no known cause; fear of the unknown

Trust and confidence in meeting the unknown

Excessive focus on imperfections in other people and circumstances and overlooking the positive

Seeing the good within each person or situation

Finding it hard to say “no”; giving up one’s own needs to please others

Serving others out of compassion while staying true to oneself

Insecurity; not trusting one’s own judgement and seeking confirmation from others

Inner certainty, intuition

Fear of losing control and behaving irrationally

Composure coming from the surrender to the wisdom of life

Not learning from experience and repeating the same mistakes

Ability to learn life lessons; wisdom derived from life experiences and observations

Being overbearing, possessive and controlling over the loved ones

Giving love freely and without expectations; respecting others’ boundaries

Living in an idealized future instead of the present moment; escaping reality

Awake, focused presence; feeling grounded

Feeling unclean inside or out; excessive focus on trivialities; exaggerated need for order

Acceptance of self; embracing imperfections

A crisis of confidence caused by being overwhelmed with responsibilities

Confidence to succeed; ability to accept help

Feeling discouraged after a setback; a sense of failure; a weak will

Perseverance; faith

Feeling hopeless and pessimistic about the future

Hope and optimism

Loneliness manifesting in being overly talkative, needy and self-absorbed

Emotional self-sufficiency; compassion

Negative feelings towards others, such as jealousy, envy and hatred

An open heart; love, unity, compassion and gratitude; generosity

Living in, or being affected by, the past; homesickness

Being fully in the present; acceptance of current life conditions

Feelings of fatigue or weariness at just the thought of doing something

Dynamic involvement in life’s tasks; steady flow of energy

Inner tension and irritation caused by being impatient when things or people do not move as quickly as desired

Ability to flow harmoniously and patiently with the life’s natural rhythms and the pace of others

Lack of confidence, self-doubt and poor self-esteem preventing from trying new things and speaking up

Self-confidence; self-expression; ability to take risks

Everyday (identified) fears; shyness and nervousness

Courage and confidence to face life’s challenges

Depression, gloom or despair which have no clear correlation with life events; moodiness

Emotional equilibrium

Being strong and dutiful, but ignoring one’s own limits and needs, which often leads to burn out

Balanced, flexible strength; accepting limits

Mental and physical exhaustion after a period of strain or physical illness

Rejuvenated life force and energy; ability to rest

Feeling of guilt and the tendency to blame ourselves for everything; self-criticism

Self-acceptance and self-forgiveness; ability to move forward despite past regrets

Worry, anxiety or over-concern about others

Compassionate and trusting regard for welfare of others; respect for another’s autonomy

Gripping terror or panic; being in a survival mode

Courage, peace and mental clarity when facing adversity

Being mentally rigid and too hard on one’s self

Flexibility, spontaneity; being in touch with the flow of one’s feelings

Indecision; inability to choose between alternatives; constantly changing moods and opinions

Inner balance and resolve; decisiveness

Shock, grief or trauma - either recent or unhealed from the past

Consolation and comfort

Deepest despair; extreme anguish; the “dark night of the soul”

Faith in life and self; seeing crisis as opportunity for transformation

Excessive enthusiasm in a cause; fanaticism; great intensity and tension, leading to nervous exhaustion

Moderation; tolerance; wise use of energy

Being opinionated, domineering, and forcing one’s will on others

Authentic, compassionate leadership; selfless service

Stressful life transitions; difficulty adapting to change; being overly-influenced by social expectations or values preventing inner change

Freedom from limiting influences; moving on and adapting to change; inner strength to follow one’s path

Being private and self-reliant, to the point of appearing distant and aloof

Easy social connections; ability to share one’s gifts with others

Obsessive, worrying, unwanted thoughts; restless, agitated mind often leading to insomnia

Uncluttered mind; inner peace; balance between feeling and thinking

Uncertainty and confusion about one’s direction in life

Recognizing and following one’s calling; finding purpose and meaning in work

Resignation and apathy; lack of vitality

Will to live; enthusiasm; vitality

Self-pity and resentment; blaming others and seeing oneself as a victim

Acceptance, forgiveness and taking responsibility for one’s life